Dear Lisa – October

Dear Lisa,
I have recently started a long distance relationship with my girlfriend. She has made some new friends, some of which are guys. However, one in particular seems to be really close to her. I really think he likes her as more than a friend, but I am afraid to say something, and she doesn’t seem to notice his intentions. I don’t want to seem overprotective and drive my girlfriend away, but at the same time I don’t want to lose her by not doing anything. What should I do?

Sincerely,
Far-Away-Boyfriend

Dear Far-Away–Boyfriend,
Being in a long distance relationship is hard and adds more stress to college life. In this type of relationship, the main thing that keeps it afloat is trust. If you don’t have it, then a long distance relationship is not for you. You do not have to completely trust the guy, but you have to trust your girlfriend. If you question his or even her intentions, it just pushes her farther away from you and closer to the guy. In a nutshell, all you have to do is keep the line of communication open and remind her that you trust her enough that she won’t betray you.

Xoxo
Abby

Dear Lisa,
I recently started my life in college with my best friend. Before we went away to school, we decided we would spend lots of time together and would meet new people together, despite rooming with other people. Now that we are here, she forgot what we had previously arranged and has made a whole new group of friends and has ditched me. I’ve made some new friends, but I really want to hang out with my best friend. What do you think I should do?

Sincerely,
Forgotten-Friend

Dear Forgotten Friend,
Personally, I believe if you really want to hang out with your best friend a lot more, you should tell her. Sit her down one day and say how you feel; explain that you miss spending time with her and miss the good old days of friendship. Also, to even spend more time together, go out with her and her new friends. This is a good idea because you are making more friends while still being close with your best friend.

Xoxo
Abby

Dear Lisa,
It’s my first year here at MSU, and I am staying in one of the dorms on campus. I’m taking a lot of classes, and the work load is overwhelming, causing me to be up late doing homework. However, to add to the stress, my roommate comes back at early hours of the morning and is usually drunk. I have tried talking to my roommate, and we’ve talked to the resident mentor on our floor, but my roommate continues to be noisy and rude. Do you have any advice?

Sincerely,
Annoyed-and-Angry

Dear Annoyed – and -Angry,
I feel if you have talked to your roommate and your adviser already and she still is not being respectful, it is probably time to move out. I understand that adds more stress to being a first year student, but it seems like she is not getting the point that you need your sleep, and it is your room too. Also, by moving, you will get a new roommate that hopefully respects that this is college, and it is not all about the fun, but work too.

Xoxo
Abby

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